This is kind of related to something that’s been bothering me lately. I’ve lived with unmedicated ADHD for my entire life which was originally incorrectly diagnosed as major depressive disorder. So spent over a decade repeatedly playing pharmacology roulette cycling through various antidepressants none of which worked (because depression wasn’t the root issue). All the while I was just barely holding down a job I could barely stand, alienating myself from everyone I knew, and just barely avoiding giving myself a shotgun slug root canal. Needless to say I was stressed as fuck.
Then I got properly diagnosed with ADHD, put on meds that actually worked amazingly, got a new job I loved with my newfound executive function, and generally got my life into shape. This just so happened to take place at the end of 2024. So, despite the entire fucking world falling apart around me and everyone being stressed, I am relatively stress free for the first time in my life. It’s a weird thing where everything globally is more fucked than I can even fully properly conceive of and yet despite that I personally have never felt better. The two things aren’t related but It still feels weird being happiest I’ve ever been when the world as I knew it is falling apart.
Anyways, that’s a very long way to say that sometimes stress doesn’t coincide with the end of the world.
I was one of a small segment that used Covid not to fall down the ladder of alcohol abuse but to get sober and clean totally, and the ensuing mortgage pause saved my house, and I didn’t lose anyone - so my memories and impression of Covid is a lot rosier than some folks.
Actually during the weird week of 9/11, everyone was in a daze, and I used that to slip back into society which I had dropped out of for a year, staying in my apartment. Everyone’s in shell shock the next day, and my PTSD brain is just humming along like normal, it was like I had a superpower. I kind of have a history of using national emergencies to climb back out of holes.
Oh I’m not under stress. It’s more or less expanded into an all consuming blob at which I am the pitiful center.
Just don’t stress so much. Take the time to enjoy your hobbies or just relax. Your body needs it.
Also, find an extra 4 hours every day to exercise, meditate, and get a full night’s sleep. But also make sure to socialize with friends and family. Oh, and eat right. And clean up a bit, your environment is a big factor.
But don’t stress!
Oh, and eat right.
Also, what foods are right will change dozens of times over your lifetime, but myeah, just do your best.
If you ignore the fad diets, it’s not that bad. Science can change on specific points over time but it’s been pretty uncontroversial for many decades that a diet of fresh foods with plenty of fruits and vegetables and a moderate intake of meat and fish, with a minimum of sugar and junk food, is good for you.
It’s just that occasionally something comes along that we really want to be true, like wine is healthy or all-meat is actually good because the cavemen did it. When the finding is something we want to be true, we’ll blow a minor, flawed study all out of proportion and keep talking about it years after it’s debunked.
Is red wine still good for you. I’m sure that was a thing at one point.
There was a little back and forth between different studies on that which is the way science is supposed to work, but every twist and turn was dragged out and amplified by the fact that we WANT to believe 2 glasses of wine a day is good for us. That kind of finding gets spread far and wide. And when other scientists try to replicate the studies and find they are exaggerated, we give them a hard time for flip flopping.
Heresay, but last I heard the reason red wine being good came about is due to most of the people who had red wine every night were better off financially and data was skewed from a class perspective. Basically having money is good for your health.
The “French Paradox” also played into this. We love the idea that some group of special people have had all this figured out for centuries and if we just follow their traditional ways, we’ll live forever. But if they happen to exhibit longevity, it’s more often genetics or other factors besides something we desperately want to believe, like booze is healthy. I wonder if the French Paradox was amplified by the oldest person in the world being, for years, a French woman who smoked like a chimney.
That’s funny in a really dark way
Just gotta filter out all the bullshit
CICO > everything else
High protein is good but you only need a moderate amount if you don’t work out, sugar is harmless if you aren’t a diabetic or it’s causing you to eat excess calories, try to keep a healthy balance of fatty acids, eat enough fiber but not too much, vegetables aren’t necessary for a healthy diet but certainly help.
If you are tracking your food you’re already doing better than the vast majority of the population
Yep folks. Filter out the bullshit. 🙄👆
cico is good for weight loss but not overall health
Paying attention to your “cico” will solve a lot of overall health issues
Got it. Sugar cube sandwich it is.
that bread is just empty gluten
Hey this isn’t the YMCA
Gluten is a protein though, so you should breadmaxx for ultra gainz
lol this sounds like mockery cause everything you said is impossible to achieve for most of us
People dismiss it often, but I do think all of us are born predisposed to view the world a certain way and how we respond. As I said to another person, I have anendophasia, which means I have little to no internal monologue. I don’t really get stressed out because I don’t really get intrusive thoughts. I could sleep fairly easily. With any criticisms I get, I just forget and it doesn’t linger in my mind, or I just learn and move on.
The downside of having anendophasia, though, is that I have been insensitive before, because I wrongly assumed that people don’t have constant intrusive thoughts. It was irrational for me as to why have these thoughts without bearing in reality. Only recently I realise many, if not most, people have constant internal monologue that is pain in the butt. Nothing for me to do but understand. It’s the state of mind all along.
Only about 20% of people have constant internal monologue. It’s more likely to have zero internal monologue than an uncontrollable one.
This indicates to me that the internal monologuers are potentially describing uncontrolled anxiety.
I also experience little to no internal dialog, and have no issues sleeping. But I’m still stressed. Usually I’m unaware, but its more of a feeling than a thought.
I will tell my boss and the managers of other teams all of this, I’m sure they’ll understand.
also, you could stand to increase your income by a few digits. if you clench hard enough it should manifest
I’m sure some people exist with little to no stress.
They’re probably independently wealthy.
I’m not wealthy, but as someone with anendophasia (I have little to no internal monologue), I rarely get stressed out because I don’t really get intrusive thoughts. I have no qualms with not conforming to societal expectations. Two of my friends thought I am lonely being single or lonely in general for having moved out of town. But I mean, I would not be doing what I am doing now if I am not happy.
As someone with whatever the total opposite of that is, just basically constantly thinking at 1000km/h, that sounds like heaven TBH.
The downside to my situation is that I have been insensitive before, because I projected my own worldview on to others (don’t we all?) It didn’t occur to me that many, if not most, people are constantly at odds with their own mind. It’s one of my baggages as to why I am still single lol.
Oh yeah I’m sure it comes with a ton of downsides, just seems like it would feel like vacations haha. Grass is always greener and all that…
My doctor makes 6x what I do, and takes a month off every time there’s a holiday. I don’t think she and I are living on the same planet.
Unless they had rich parents, they also have mid-6-figures in debt, so things get a bit esoteric at that point. Money flows in and out very fast, and if there’s an interruption, everything can fall apart very fast. Also higher chance they have a substance use disorder and unhappy marriage. The average internist or general practitioner makes $144k a year, which is less than a lot of ICE agents now (who might actually be trying to arrest them). All in all, mixed bag, and I have friends I wish would have NEVER become doctors because it’s killing them slowly.
Maybe once in a while they get a patient that lives under a rock. 🤷♂️
Some of us are the undead
My life for Ner’zhul
Yeah but we don’t all spend most of our free time doomscrolling.
To prescribe you medication.
More stressed than yesterday but less stressed than tomorrow!
They usually say “increased” stress
Yes, now that you mention it, I have been under increased stress recently. It started around the time I came to your office.
Dr: I’ll just put you down as having chronic hypertension.
Doctors are morons and simply follow a script, fill out some forms and push you along your merry way.
We need to completely revamp medicine or get rid of these note-taking robots and replace them with AI which IMO would give the same result.
AI (LLMs) could not even follow a script
Have you met many doctors?
I’d say I’ve met a decent amount. I have had 5 or so long term doctors as an adult, and have been treated by tens of doctors after that. This is in Norway.
And besides telling you the pig-obvious that you could find yourself, what did they do?
i mean you get bad actors in every field, but my experience (in statesia) lately is that nurse practitioners provide the real care, doctors manage the NPs and see you once a year.
Stress comes from inside you, not the outside.
That’s 100% true and it’s kinda sad to see you getting downvoted. I went though hell before learning this lesson and I hope not everyone has to.
Of course I get downvoted on Lemmy, a congregation of misfits, mental illness, social outcasts, contrarians, and political extremists. People who live a healthy, well adjusted, and happy life are not on Lemmy.
Emotional regulation is a skill that can be learned. You have agency and are not just a passive victim of circumstance. Life is not easy, but suffering and unhappiness is optional.
