Is it normal not to care about your friends, uncle, cousins or anyone? Like, you have friends, but you couldn’t care less about them and don’t value them. If they have kids, you don’t care about their well-being either. Basically could not give less of a fuck about anyone. You don’t care about your friends or family members at all. If they are sick, you don’t care; if they die, you don’t care. Is this normal?
No, you need to go to therapy and talk these feelings through with a professional.
I’ve been in a similar emotional state and with therapy I realized my ‘dgaf’ attitude was the only way I could keep living after a traumatic incident I experienced as a child, twenty-five years ago. I had been forcing my self away from having any meaningful relationships out of fear that they would make me feel bad, like I did on that day. Before therapy I had forgotten it had ever happened, but afterwards I realized so much about myself and it all just clicked into place; all of my strange behaviours, my anti-social tendencies, my mentality of not giving a fuck about you or anyone else. It was all to avoid negative emotions. I wish I had gone, or been able to go to therapy a lot sooner. I would be much happier then I am now if I did, but it matters not because I did go, and I talked things out; I worked out the cause of all this pain and
healedstarted healing.Ask yourself, when was the last time you cried?
I do care about people, but I have to admit the only time I cry is when their pets die.
I was partly the same. I only cared about my pets. The last time I had cried before therapy was when my cat died, and before that when my dog died ~10 years prior.
I cry to music also
No. Obviously not.
No, it is not normal. You might be a sociopath
Adding link context/titles:
The first one is an ask lemmy post titled: Is it normal to not value any other type of relationships other than romantic?
The second one is a showerthought post titled: “fridging” is honestly the only good motivation to become a superhero or good person
And in the elaboration on the showerthought, they essentially say that the only believable motivation for someone to become a hero is loss of a romantic partner and that it is unbelievable to care that much about anyone else in your life. That it is not tragic to lose a family member or friend. They seemed to think this was a universal viewpoint
I care more for other species than I do my own. I just don’t see humans as important as they think they are. The trolley problem isn’t difficult for me; either selection works. And yes, the misanthropy is real.
But if you don’t care about anything at all, not animals, not plants, not even the universe, then you don’t love yourself. That’s when it’s time for therapy.
The good news is that you care enough to ask about it. As others have said, see a medical professional.
No definitely not. Like, it’s fine if you don’t care for some uncle who’s kind of a dick and who you see once a year. But if you care for no-one but yourself then something is out of the norm. Might not be something you can help, but it’s probably a good idea to run this by a professional.
Personally I’m kinda extreme in the opposite direction. I can feel intense empathy towards inanimate objects. I’ll feel sad for the slightly fucked apple at the supermarket because no-one will buy it. I struggle to watch movies with too emotional plots because I start to experience those emotions myself intensely.
No. What it means exactly, is harder to say without knowing you and your story.
People attribute way more power to mental health professionals than they actually have, but I feel like this is something they could at least diagnose. If you have access to it…
I think we all jump to recommending mental health professionals because if people are asking these kinds of questions to strangers on the Internet they clearly do not have anyone to talk to.
Yeah, it’s not bad advice, but I do see it get pushed as a panacea or used as an insult as well.
Also your alias is grimreaper. Why do i feel like you are on your way to becoming a mass murderer or a school shooter…
Your parents were treating you badly?
Sounds like a mental illness that a professional should help with.
I’m beginning to really not care about my brother and I feel like an absolute piece of shit for feeling this way.
He’s fallen down a rabbit hole of conspiracy psuedo-science and has been treating our mum like shit these last few months. Gas lighting her, not letting her see his kids, shit like that.
thats different than OP, not be able to have empathetic connection with anyone for no reason at all. your doing it in response to a negative reaction from the person.
Yeah fair point
Doesn’t this fit the bill for a sociopath?
I think a sociopath would value people for what they can do for them. This sounds more like crushing depression.
Ahh, yeah I think that tracks
I commented on your other post about this. No, this is a problem and seeking help from a professional is absolutely paramount in your situation. If this post isnt about you, your responsibility is to urge the individual to seek help. A general uncaring for the world is the first ingredient in dozens of tragic recipes. You’re/they’re not alone, even if thats preferable. You need people in almost the same way you need food and water. I care about you/them and I’m absolutely positive plenty of others do too.
It’s fine.
Your feelings or lack of them is valid. If you’re getting through life and are happy without giving a shit about others then good for you. If it’s harming you or others then you have a problem. If you’re unhappy because you feel like you’re missing something in your life then do something about it, but don’t let others tell you how to feel.
Has this always been the case, or is it a new thing? If always, some of the other comments have some suggestions around neurodivergence. If new, it might be due to stress - if I am drained from work and basic household maintenance and just feeding myself, I have no brain cells left to care about anything else. The caring comes back if I manage to work in more rest time per week.
One of my coworkers says she has no fucks left when she feels like that. “Sorry, all my fucks have already been given.”
Behold the field where I grow my fucks and see it lies barren
