Having positive, coherent, and thoughtful discussions on most topics online.
Saying: “I am sorry.”
After years of martial arts training, actually defeating a determined opponent in a physical confrontation.
Also, cryptography.
Are you allowed to use cryptography in those martial arts confrontations? If so, is a calculator ok, or do you bitshift in your head?
Continuing to give a shit as the entire system collapses.
It’s easy to be friendly at work. But turning that “work-friend” relationship into a real friendship, one where you do things outside of work together, is still a mystery to me. I have no idea how people do that. Others make it look so easy. I can’t imagine anyone at my job dislikes me, we all compliment each other, laugh at each others’ jokes, and hold fun conversations on the clock. Yet when a crowd gets together after work and plans where to go next, I’m baffled. I’m too anxious to invite myself, but nobody ever invites me, so I just try to ignore it so I don’t feel hurt. :')
Same as any relationship you just ask. Make it easy and do a group drinks after work first then if you hit it off plan something.
I swear as someone who overthinks everything it amazes me I don’t with this and other people do lol
Oh gosh, I was already nervous about asking just one person. Asking a group?! I can feel my soul dying already.
Do you work with a team/department? Just say let’s go out for dinner/drinks after work. Just like outside work expect maybe 50% to commit.
Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free
You get into it thinking it’s a fun hobby and now it’s sunday night, you’re on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it’s fucking impossible without a garage
I exaggerated a bit but I swear it’s not far off
I want a fucking garage :-/
Folks often ask me how I manage to keep my old cars looking & running so great. I’d love to say it’s because I do all the maintenance, and of course that helps. But the real answer is because I keep them in a garage. It really is that simple. It blows my fucking mind that America is so car-centric on every other aspect except having housing with enough garage space.
It’s not even keeping it in the garage for me, it’s that I need a garage to do anything. Working on the street is so annoying.
Right now, to do a polish&protect I gotta ask other people with private property (I live in an apartment) and they always bug me with “oh it’s my holiday, so YOU can’t work” or they keep nagging to me about how what I’m doing is pointless, or that I spent too much money on this (I did…but don’t tell me what to do!!..)
1 It’s not work, it’s a hobby, and 2. Next time you try to have me be a delivery boy for you during a holiday I’m saying no, unless I forgot to check your holidays.
Like god damn just let me do my nice hobby in peace. I already helped you with countless things even during my work hours, let me have a nice time and stop imposing your religion, financials, and whatever other crap on me.
I feel like I’m the only guy around here that just helps however he’s asked to without imposing my views on others as I’m helping them.
Starting (anything) Executive function issues people unite!
Going to bed before midnight and actually sleeping
Warm white lightbulbs, anti blue coatings on glasses and settings in every device, and occasionally remembering to not drink caffeine past 4pm (even if you’re a ‘caffeine makes me tired’ person it still keeps your brain kicking and out of rem sleep) were the kickers that got me into a good sleep schedule
The second I had a pair of glasses with those night driving amber lenses I genuinely noticed my sleep being better, felt myself actually getting tired and would actually go to bed early.
The doomscrolling in bed didn’t help either
making friends and keeping them (or social skills in general)
As someone who does this occasionally, I still feel this.
Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.
Turning when you’re riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.
Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn’t going to be able to turn much unless you’re actually giving it some throttle.
“unskilled” labor
Playing the harmonica.
Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn’t squeak - unless you’re doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don’t get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).
I’m very bad at the harmonica.
I have only ever seen one musician who could play the harmonica like a musical instrument. The guy from Sister Sparrow, Jackson Kincheloe. It was such a remarkable difference from the way I’d seen it played.
ETA, if you don’t mind a YouTube link, here he is.
Great oral exercise.
Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I’ve gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can’t seem to find a care to do it anymore. I’m sure it’s tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have no drive to keep doing it.
It’s almost creepy, are you me? This is exactly how i would describe the shit i am like for about a year now.
Not quite, I’m the mirrored version you see when you look in the mirror, except I must say the mirror must be fogged because it says lady in your name, so you’d have to be squinting hard. My beard is a bit hard to mistake, lol. Hope you find some sort of spark in your life soon that starts to make things better, I really need to find a new line of work probably.
I get like this if I have a good weekend, trip or vacation. It’s supposedly supposed to make you feel better in life but for me the stress beforehand (if it’s a big trip) and the depression afterward almost make it easier to bury my head in work and not peak too far outside my little bubble.
All of it.
