My mom swears by drinking something through a straw during conversations where you think you might cry. I have yet to try it out myself, but maybe it’ll work for you :)

Rehearse it a bunch so the words no longer have the same weight

I mean, my go-to way is to remember that if I don’t control my emotional responses, everyone will judge me and like me even less than they already do. Then I practiced for 30 years.

Honestly, I would question the necessity of the telling-off. Like, whatever it is, you can just let it go and move on with your life. Cut them out of your social circles. Put your telling-off into a text or email. Or cut it down to a short sentence you can toss at them offhandedly. If you’re planning some long elaborate speech… I would strongly suggest you reconsider.

Now the singular fucking clue. I have been crying non-stop for the past week and a half, two weeks.

so you want to exert an emotional response to so.eone but suppress the emotional response? hmmm…cry before hand. drain those tears

You’re supposed to jack off before making relationship decisions, texting exes, etc…so maybe that would work? I have no idea if the systems connect, but it seems worth a shot.

Be very very dehydrated.

If you do end up crying you can always say something like “regardless of my tears what I’m saying stands”, worst case scenario.

Take deep, slow breaths and be mindful of how the air flows through your body when you think you might cry - train it beforehand.

Keep telling yourself that you are now communicating facts and what you say is not personal - maybe have a little trinket, and every time you take that trinket in your hand you know that now is “fact-time”.

Those things help me when situations get emotionally difficult.

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I don’t have advice – because In the past I have also had issues with voice shaking and tears when in emotional situations. No clue if I’ve grown out of it or have just been better at avoiding them.

I need to tell someone off

You might want to reflect on if you really need to. “Fuck off” and walking away is also sufficient. Delivering via a written message is also an option.

If this is a work situation then my suggestions change dramatically.

Physical pain can be a good distraction

In your head, be a third party. You’re just passing along the information. Not apologetic, not angry, just facts.

Sometimes it helps me to inflict slight pain somewhere, like pinching myself or contracting my foot inside my shoe really tightly. Like, it divides my attention between that sensation and what I’m dealing with emotionally. But I mostly just let myself cry, so take those ideas with a grain of salt. Here’s hoping it goes ok for you!

I need to tell someone off

But do you really? What would be different if you did vs didn’t do that? If someone does something to harm you in some way, think about never trusting them again and/or limiting or ending all communication with them. Believe it or not, some people enjoy getting an emotional rise out of others, and you run the risk of giving them that. What drives people like that crazy is getting nothing from you