I have a couple friends like this. Live with their moms, over 25, never had a job or anything. Only plays games. I feel so bad for them because they don’t think they are smart but they definitely are, they just dont spend their time wisely.
Im not judging. That life sounds great when youre young. But I dont want them to wake up at 35 and be even more depressed because they’ve never done anything in life.
It would be well and good if they were happy like this but they definitely aren’t. Im just not sure how someone like that could even integrate into society. I give them advice here and there and sometimes talk about jobs with them, but they are also self proclaimed “lazy” and never really branch out to try new things. I try to send them links to code camps and stuff like that i think they’ll enjoy, but they dont do it. I’ve offered to hang out with them when im their town (we’ve been friends for years and know each other very well so this isnt weird) but they cant drive either which makes ir hard.
I already know most replies wil be “ITS FINE TO HAVE A BORING LIFE LEAVE THEM ALONE AND STOP TRYING TO “SAVE” THEM” but a boring life is different than a healthy life, imo.
Edit: i knew there’d be a lot of misinterpretation and people self reflecting on their own lives as a result of this post. Regardless, I am glad for the discussion. Thank you to those of you who had constructive comments instead of outright attacks.
Because that’s one way to move towards independence. Independence not just from the parents, but from having a soul-crushing job.
It’d be hard for a 30-year old with no education or job experience to get a job or start a business. Or save up money for anything.
Ok but if they are smart like OP claims they will surely already know they’re unlikely to have money if they don’t get a job at some point. If OP keeps bringing that up it’s pretty condescending.
I never bring this up to them, that would be assholish in my opinion.
Hate to break it to you but sending them job openings and code camps counts as bringing this up.
I just sent them as something to look at. I’ve never said “you need to look at this, you jobless loser!!” Its always been oh ya here’s openings at my company (because they asked what people there do) and they expressed some interest in coding but like me have never been able to stick with it so ive sent code camps I was trying out to see if they wanted to do it together. Etc.
Or they’re counting on mom and dad’s money until the parents pass away. Could be in denial about how much time they have and how easy it would be to get a job when that time comes.
Thats also why its worrying. They dont have a cent.
Now I dont doubt they could really get a job pretty easily if they wanted. They just have no reason to
If they find a way to make money without needing to build up the discipline through a job etc., then that’s great. People can do that over the internet on low-cost areas or with some familial support.
Not everyone can.
Yes, there’s enough resources in the world to go around where people shouldn’t have to work, let alone 40h a week.
But currently, that’s impossible in every country that I’m familiar with.