He said that in reference to coworkers at your job. Some of the women are “mean girls” who gossip about other people, some guys are bullies (obviously not in an in-your-face way), and some of the adults just act like high school students. The only difference is that some of your coworkers are in their 20s, 30s, or 40s.
Would you say thats accurate?
No.
Depends on the workplace. All of them have a bit of drama, IME, but most aren’t nearly as bad as highschool. But I have had a few employees who were absolutely that bad tho.
I spent many years traveling and visiting many different companies
I can confidently say that this is totally a function of the ownership/management
I suspect some jobs have a social setting like high school, the good and the bad, but generally not a bit. I learn stuff, and join clubs and teams, so guess there are some similarities.
God, no. High school was awful. Adult life has not been. People have been largely reasonable in my experience, once out of school. I do think some people are more gossipy, sure, but not in a mean way. Some more loud, outgoing, dramatic, others more quiet, sometimes that causes friction but all seem within specs for normal adult behavior, nobody being mean to others (well, except once - there was a lady who went to HR to complain about how someone else dressed, but it’s the exception that proves the rule) Can’t say I’ve encountered bullies at work at all.
And I am not in my 20s or 30s or 40s.
Not even close. This old ZeFrank video really applies: https://youtu.be/-KQb3Mx2WMw
Teens just think differently. It’s not their fault, no more is it the fault of my four year old when he can’t understand things. It’s just part of growing up. But this part of growing up involved emotions being heightened not just to 11, but like 27 or something absurd like that. It creates so much drama, heartache, and pain.
Now, all those saying that work is, in fact, just like high school? They’re complaining about individual people they meet who act immature, reminding them a little of high school. The fact is, as adults we SHOULD be leaving that all behind, and anyone that continues to do it is an outlier. And outliers get attention, and we tend to focus out experiences on them.
But it IS an outlier. Adult life is not like high school, except in exceptions that we sometimes focus on in frustration because we shouldn’t have to deal with it, but sometimes do.
In highschool, it’s not the exception, it’s just how things are all the time. It can’t help but be that way. It’s how you grow up. It’s how we are as young humans, anywhere and everywhere.
Adulthood is different. There are times we remember being young and stupid, mostly when witnessing people being stupid sometimes— and that never changes. But adulthood is different.
i work as a float teller a a bank, and some branches are cliquier than others, and some have workers who act about as responsible as a teenager, but overall it’s far better than high school
Maybe it depends on the workplace, but i would say no. Everyone in my office is pretty chill and there are no exclusive cliques; there are friend groups but they are much more permeable. Unlike my high school friends, I rarely see my colleagues after work. The people are also more homogeneous- in high school you’re lumped in with a bunch of kids from all different backgrounds: some are headed to college, others to jail, etc. At the office, everyone but the support staff might have advanced degrees (for example). The policy on harassment also makes bullying a very dangerous proposition- way stricter than any school i attended.
Besides my time in the army, not really, no. But being in an all-male infantry section of the French Army did remind me a lot of my Jesuit boys-only highschool days! 😅
Swiss here
fwiw, “section” means platoon in French.
it’s not that rare to get a male-only platoon, a company on the other hand…
Some are. For the past few years I’ve actually liked my coworkers and the work place is pretty much drama free
Extremely inaccurate.
High school you change class every year. In a job you dont
By your definition and examples, no it is not.
100% accurate. I’ve had coworkers say things to others rudely for no reason, get spoken to by the big bosses, and then somehow make the person they said it to the bad guy… People don’t actually grow up, they just become old children.
absolutely. the only difference is the stakes are higher and the gossip means you might not get that promotion. same old cliques, just with 401ks.
