For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
I’m not a parent but I think in general unnecessary cosmetic surgery should be left up to the individual especially when it is related to genitals. I understand wanting to help them conform to norms to try to give them an easier life and there are some surgeries I think make sense like a cleft palate or an infant with burns, but if it’s not necessary you’re taking away their bodily autonomy and I think that’s a very important line morally. You need to determine if you think it’s necessary or unnecessary, and if the discomfort of a possible later in life surgery pushed it past the moral boundary or not.
I’ve never wished that I was circumcised. And anyone who thinks my dick is gross doesn’t sound like they’d be fun to fuck, anyway.
I sure as hell didn’t get my son circumcised. Don’t do it, let your son make that choice himself when he’s old enough.
To all those ignoring your question and trying to bully you. Fuck off. I commend you for trying to get more information on a divisive topic. Congrats on your son!
As someone who’s circumcised, I think it’s a practice we should leave behind. Buddy getting bullied was more about victimization than circumcision. Likewise any future partner that has that as a deal breaker either way is a bullet dodged.
That being said, I think some people overplay the victim card on this one. I think some people use it as a scapegoat to avoid acknowledging other issues like porn addiction, intimacy issues, and sexual incompatibility within relationships.
Than there’s the people who try to conflate a hospital performed medical procedure with Female Genital Mutilation from like rural Africa or India.
AFAIC if your biggest problem in life is that you’re circumcised… shut the fuck up? Or complain about something more important than your own dick.
TLDR: Don’t do it.
he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery.
Yeah, no. That was probably due to someone’s more complicated circumstances.
Did it myself as a young-ish adult due to worsening phymosis and recovery was normal, couple of weeks or a month like any stitched wound’s healing would do. Only weird and uncomfortable thing was the initial sensitivity of the tip, which completely waned off for the recovery period. I read plenty on other cases as I considered the circumcision myself, and nobody mentioned a painful recovery, recoveries sounded about same as mine.
Circumsizing your children is not really a thing in my country, except for muslims, but even if I had a boy I’d guess personally I’d leave it to them to decide if they need it when becoming an adult.
Nope. It feels real good, and other guys go crazy for it (usually)
Never! Just wash your penises with soap, it’s not that hard!
No and We would never even see if anyone was circumcised or not in school
Don’t mutilate your kid. If there’s a medical reason go ahead, otherwise leave it be.
Your son can’t put it back if you remove it, but he can remove it if you leave it. Let it be his choice over his body.I agreed to do it for my first son.
the screaming broke me. I can still hear his cries.
my second son, they didn’t even ask and just did it. I was furious.
don’t do it.
I’m uncircumcised and I’m thankful every fucking day. Don’t do it to them. If you’re being bullied for your penis, there’s other problems at hand there. And women who won’t sleep with you over this aren’t worth sleeping with anyway.
They say they circumsize because they dont want to have to clean it or it smells. a little funk is okay. i hate the catholic pressure to snip. i wish they didnt obsess over keeping it cute and neat i wish i had the choice.
Uncircumcised and have my tonsils. My mother was adamant about having every piece of her children coming home with her. I was on the swim team in high school, and no one teased me about my dick. Plenty of other things, but not that.
I’m circumcised but against it on principle,and had roughly the same concerns as you in thinking about future sons. This thread is doing a lot to assuage my concerns.
No, I have never wished that. But then again no one I know is circumcised
