I bet this sounds like a stupid question - especially coming from a man. However, NoStupidQuestions doesn’t allow NSFW topics, so here I am - bear with me.

I genuinely don’t know what this feels like from the inside. I see so many men go to extreme lengths to chase women - sometimes even risking their careers or relationships just to get laid. Some are literally willing to pay for it. I don’t get it. What does that pull actually feel like?

I’m not judging - I’m trying to understand. I only know what it looks like from the outside, but I have no idea what it’s like on the inside. I’ve had sex multiple times, and it’s fine, but it seems vastly overrated to me. Clearly, I’m not getting out of it what most other men are, so I’m trying to understand the baseline experience.

My motivation for asking is that I’m working on myself and hoping that, eventually, I’ll be able to feel even a fraction of that same pull. However, with things like lifting weights, I at least have a clear image in mind of what I’m working toward - but it’s harder to define that when it comes to subjective experiences.

  • shadow_acct@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    12 days ago

    It’s a somewhat uncomfortable feeling tbh, like being pulled towards something. Physically, it’s slightly achy and stiff with the feeling of my heartbeat all over like a race is about to start. Emotionally, it depends. With someone I care about and who cares about me, it’s almost like because they’re accepting me in a state that I usually try to hide, there’s this almost sugary feeling of excitement. With someone casual, there’s a feeling of relief. Sustained arousal after the initial portion feels stiff, less intense, and kinda fleeting… but it’s also easy to get overwhelmed.