I bet this sounds like a stupid question - especially coming from a man. However, NoStupidQuestions doesn’t allow NSFW topics, so here I am - bear with me.
I genuinely don’t know what this feels like from the inside. I see so many men go to extreme lengths to chase women - sometimes even risking their careers or relationships just to get laid. Some are literally willing to pay for it. I don’t get it. What does that pull actually feel like?
I’m not judging - I’m trying to understand. I only know what it looks like from the outside, but I have no idea what it’s like on the inside. I’ve had sex multiple times, and it’s fine, but it seems vastly overrated to me. Clearly, I’m not getting out of it what most other men are, so I’m trying to understand the baseline experience.
My motivation for asking is that I’m working on myself and hoping that, eventually, I’ll be able to feel even a fraction of that same pull. However, with things like lifting weights, I at least have a clear image in mind of what I’m working toward - but it’s harder to define that when it comes to subjective experiences.
I suppose I was pretty horny as a teen. Had most of my life’s sex from 16-19. After that my interest waned, and I likewise never really understood why so many people seem willing to throw away their lives for 5 minutes of pleasure. There’s more free porn out there than you could watch in a lifetime.
Taking ssri’s since my early twenties probably didn’t exactly help my libido, but everything still works at the very least.
You guys are able to have orgasms with SSRI’s? /j
It still worked, but added an hour of labor to a 5 minute job.
SSRIs?
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors. A class of antidepressants. Although I’ve since graduated to SNRI’s and tricyclics.
Ah. Sounds rough man. You doing ok? I’m sure you’re not golden, but more ups than downs hopefully.
I got fired from my 10-yr job this week, so I’ve been better lol. Relationship-wise, I’m blessed with a very understanding partner, so I consider myself rich in that regard.
There seems to be a rash of that going around as of late. Couple years back the company I was working for pulled up stakes in my area. The company as a whole was scaling back in rural areas. But, I eventually found something else. I know you will as well. Just hang tough for a bit. It’ll come around.