• SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
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    10 months ago

    Excruciating period pain that would leave me fainting and vomiting every. Single. Time.

    “Every girl goes through this” said the doctor, convincing my parents that I was just “dramatic”.

    Turns out I had huge polyps growing out of control! Left scarring in my uterus and high-risk when pregnant.

    Dealt with that hell every fucking month since I was 11 until I got onto birth control in my 20s.

    • Paper_Phrog@lemmy.world
      1·
      10 months ago

      Poor you! It must have been terribly frustrating that the doctor wouldn’t take you seriously. Seems to be a frequent thing women go through in the medical world. Hope you’re okay now.

  • jpreston2005@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I don’t know if this counts, but when I was little I’d go to friends houses, then later in high school to my first serious girlfriends house, and I remember their families were like… loving? I loved spending time at my girlfriends house especially, hanging out with her Mom and her Dad even if my gf wasn’t there. They were so nice, and you could tell had genuine affection for their children (and to some degree, me). I miss you Mr. and Mrs. Miller!

    • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      10 months ago

      That’s me. I had no idea other families were affectionate and said crazy stuff like, “I love you.” My god, they even hug.

      To this day I struggle with affection, even though I love it. If you touch me unexpectedly I’ll involuntarily flinch. I don’t mind, at all, but I still jerk and can’t help it.

    • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.world
      1·
      10 months ago

      Heh that was my experience too. But I grew up with a single parent who spent all his time working, so most people’s childhoods weren’t spent climbing 5 floors of scaffolding for fun

      Met my partner and was astounded by her loving family

  • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    10 months ago

    I remember one day realizing it was odd that my dad would hug my mom but my mom would never hug him back. She would just stand there and let him hug her. Yeah he was an abusive husband and I was very happy for her when she finally left him after over a decade!

  • inlandempire@jlai.lu
    1·
    10 months ago

    Social democracy

    In general the political system you grow up in seems to becomes a normalcy in your mind when in reality there’s so many different ways of governing

  • Lux (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    1·
    10 months ago

    Homophobia

    I was raised in a right wing, rural area, and i didn’t meet a gay person til higschool. When he said he was gay, i assumed he was joking.

    Im trans now lol

      • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        1·
        10 months ago

        if my grandma were to be believed my dad’s babysitter when he was 4 years old infected him with homosexuality then he passed it onto his children because one (me) is trans and the other is bisexual

        She’s not very harmful about it but is just really damn confused lol

        • stelelor@lemmy.ca
          1·
          10 months ago

          So if I get this right, your dad turned homosexual from his babysitter… Then proceeded to have two, presumably biologic, kids?

          • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            1·
            10 months ago

            presumably biologic kids

            Yeah, my dad fell for the “get a woman to protect you from same sex attraction” propaganda. Over the years he changed his mind and learned that it’s not something to be ashamed of, but he was in a relationship with kids now.

            when I came out and my mom was very verbally abusive he kinda had the realization that the relationship wasn’t benefiting the children either. Also my mom was very very controlling over who he could talk to/make friends with.

            He is currently in the process of a divorce after 22 years and is coming to terms with how he let fear control his life for that long.

            It’s kinda sad.

          • phlegmy@sh.itjust.works
            1·
            10 months ago

            Nah the dad was too strong to be brainwashed by the babysitter’s sexual deviance. But those poor baby sperm overhead everything and became infected with the gay.

  • swelter_spark@reddthat.comEnglish
    1·
    10 months ago

    I grew up thinking it was normal for grown men to be attracted to little girls. My mother had a habit of pointing out random men who just happened to be around and telling me they were staring at me/thinking about how beautiful I was/in love with my/trying to look up my skirt. The way she talked about it made it seem like it was a common, acceptable thing.

  • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
    1·
    10 months ago

    Knee pain. Everyone told me it was normal growing pains, until one little league coach notice I run weird. Queue years of doctors and specialists and tests and scans and surgeries, and now I’m a 40 something guy with advanced arthritis that could have been much much worse if left untreated.

      • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
        1·
        10 months ago

        My parents took me to see doctors, who told them it was just growing pains and suggested I exercise more to lose weight. I saw three specialists and had a bunch of xrays before anyone noticed the shady spots on my cartilage. Osteochondritis Dissecans occurs in 15-30 people out of 100,000, and most of the primary care doctors I’ve had in my life had never heard of it.

        I can’t blame my parents for that. I can blame them for a lot of things, but they did their best.

  • waz@lemmy.world
    1·
    10 months ago

    This was a really recent realization for me. I am one of the people who can voluntarily activate the tensor tympani muscles in my ears to create a low level rumbling sound. I recently tried explaining this to someone else and they still think I am making it up.

  • superkret@feddit.org
    1·
    10 months ago

    Getting locked in the basement without water, or thrown out into the streets for half a day, when you misbehaved as a child.

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
      0·
      10 months ago

      I mean, yeah? Is that really so bad. I guess it depends what the intent was. The town I grew up in was pretty tame, and the room I’d get locked in without food or water if I’d misbehaved had books

      • MoonlightFox@lemmy.world
        1·
        10 months ago

        I was locked outside of the house for long periods of time and had to drink from the garden hose / garden faucet, and pee in the bushes. We also had like 10+ apple trees. It wasn’t that bad. A bit boring sometimes.

        But that’s because it was outside and I could get my needs covered and meet friends.

        Locked inside without these needs covered for extended periods is a lot worse in my opinion. Even cats and dogs have those needs covered.

        It’s also about the lack of freedom when locked inside.

        I would not treat my own children like I was treated, and especially not like you were.

        • tetris11@lemmy.ml
          0·
          10 months ago

          Yeah, I just remember it being boring too. I’m also not really a person who can’t go a few hours without water, so I never felt I was being neglected.

          I dont think I’d lock my kid indoors, but I do admit that when it happened to me after I’d been fighting my siblings or something, it was just treated as a time where I would chill out and read a book to wind down. Once dinner was ready, I’d get called for dinner, and everything seemed normal.

          So I’d probably try to create a cool down zone with my kids if I ever have them, maybe a comfy chair they’re not allowed to leave for a few hours?

          • Paper_Phrog@lemmy.world
            1·
            10 months ago

            Children (humans) should always have access to clean water. That is not normal in the slightest. A time out shouldn’t include torture.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    1·
    10 months ago

    Being unable to think of something without a prompt.

    I guess most people can just remember things without sticky notes and calendars.

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
      1·
      10 months ago

      Genuinely. This is sadly how my memory works. It’s gotten better since I had a partner who I would talk to everyday with the inane question, “so how was your day?”

      Then suddenly I had to learn how to summarize recent aspects of my life.
      And then you’re like, “shit, that happened to me today? shouldn’t I be angry about that?”

      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
        1·
        10 months ago

        I might be. Give me a topic and I’ll spew out all sorts of obscure trivia, but until you mention it, I don’t know that any of it exists.

          • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
            1·
            10 months ago

            So, “Living” card games doesn’t mean anything to me, but you did trigger card games in general, which could take me a while. I’ve probably spent a majority of my waking life playing Magic, Poker, Hearthstone, Silver, Smash up, and various other card games. Most recently, I’m obsessed with Balatro.

            That being said…

            Are you about to open a Pandoras box by making me look up Living Card Games?

            • db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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              10 months ago

              Mate, if you’re into CCGs, you really missed out by not getting into LCGs! Android:Netrunner, a remake of the original Netrunner from the 90s is the absolute GOAT CG out there with a close second being the Doomtown:Reloaded (which I helped design). Basically it was CGs without the luck/gambling. Just get all the cards and make exactly all the decks you want.

              Unfortunately Netrunner and Doomtown run out of steam half a decade ago, but they’re still developed by their fans, but usually the only way to play them consistently is online in places such as Jinteki.net. There’s a few others still in production, but iirc they’re co-operative ones, like Arkham Horror

          • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
            1·
            10 months ago

            In high school, my friend ran Linux. I was over at his house and he had to go take a shit or something, and I was trying to see what games he had on his computer. When he got back he asked what the hell I did because he now has to reboot, and we’re going to have to watch it do that for the next half hour. And penguins and hats.

            That’s pretty much everything I ever needed to know about Linux.

    • catharso@discuss.tchncs.de
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      10 months ago

      i have approximate knowledge of many things; accessing it without the right trigger may take a while though.

      i know i know something but i have accepted that my brain will often only grant me access days later in a completely unrelated situation 🤷🏼‍♂️

      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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        10 months ago

        You ADHD? I was almost 40 before I learned about inattentive type ADHD. As far as I knew, ADHD was spastic kids that couldn’t sit still. Since I was more of the daydream and fall asleep type, I never would have thought I was part of that crowd.

        • catharso@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
          1·
          10 months ago

          Pretty sure, yes.

          I’m over 40 and i’ve had this and many other symptoms my entire life.

          No official diagnose though; but this 160 questions-test for example says i’m pretty high up there: https://www.adxs.org/en

          I’m also the daydream and fall asleep type ☺️

  • isyasad@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Sharing socks. My family used to have a sock basket next to our shoes. You didn’t own your own socks, you just grab a pair when you need them.
    I mentioned “the sock basket” offhand to a friend in elementary school and she thought it was crazy. That’s when I learned that not every family has a community sock basket. Looking it up though, I find a couple reddit threads from people with the same experience (and people replying that it’s weird) 🤷‍♀️