Every. Single. Time.
Almost daily!
Only if I wind up around a lot of other people. People’s behavior in crowds and public transport tends to piss me off to an irrational degree.
Once and a while I go to the Movies and often end up asking why I thought it was a good idea to pay exorbitant prices for the 30 mins of mixed ads/previews, all for a cliche plot of yet another reboot. Which inspires me to not go to the movies for another 6 months or year, and just go for a run outside.
Usually the opposite, maybe branch out and find new friends (don’t have to lose the old ones lol) I could have fun wherever going out with the right people.
Then again we aren’t usually just drinking, that sounds terrible
I mean posing the question like that is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, no?
On the other hand, as neurodivergent this hits everytime I leave the house.
I’m queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
“Am I the only black person around here?”
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
“Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?”
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez…
Tribal mentality. A lot of people conform to the ‘Hate them… not you though, you’re one of ours’ mindset.
“Fucking hate poofs. Not Barry though, he grew up around here, he’s alright.”
“We should shoot all the [insert racist bollocks here]. Not Abdul who runs the corner shop though, he calls me ‘boss’ when I go in.”
Etc. If only their sense of tribe extended a bit further.
Funny but relevent:
No idea if you already know these places (you probably do) but The Cobblestone, Peader Brown’s, and McDowells are all great pubs that are perfectly happy serving a drink to anyone of any orientation.
Sorry for the bother if you already know.
Those places are lovely, of course I know then - I’m from there :D
Fair play to you :)
Went to a new restaurant after work when I knew it wouldn’t be busy. Just felt lonely but in that moment, that’s pretty much what I thought. It wasn’t a bar place, just a restaurant. I’m introverted af and so I don’t like small talk anyway but yeah. Life gets to you.
Spent my 20s in bars all over the place. I remember several times, sitting in a new place, thinking, “I’ve been here 100 times already.”
Now that I hardly go to bars, my wife and I like to hit a dive now and again. Apparently they don’t have shitty places quite like that in the Philippines. She gets so cute and happy, totally novel experience for her. And if they have karaoke? Game. On.
That feeling of all the bars being so similar was an early prelude to stopping going out all the time for me. I always thought it was weird that I never missed something I spent 5 - 7 days a week doing for over a decade. When the novelty wore off it was so easy to just never go back.
Now that I’m older, and laid off the bar scene for a decade+, it’s like coming home. Still, only fun a couple of times a year. And now I don’t smoke, and we can’t smoke inside, so I’m not coughing my lungs out the next morning.
It sounds like your wife just likes to party! Cuz I can assure you Manilla is filled with shitty dive bars too haha. It’s just also filled with amazing people who love to love and love to party. Filipinas rock! You two must have so much fun
LOL, I assumed so! And she’s from Manila! Seems redneck dive bars are novel for some reason. And despite the bars we’ve hit being full-on poor rednecks, no one blinks at the Asian chick, everyone very nice.
We haven’t been for awhile. The one we like just can’t stay in business for long. Too far outside town, and we’re on the edge, but not far enough to be the only bar.
You’ve inspired me to take her out tomorrow night! We’re broke, but we can blow a bit on pool and beers.
yes!! Live!!
Never be scared to duck out early from something that is not fulfilling. I’ve left group gatherings to go hiking solo because it was more enjoyable.
Every. Single. Time.
Frequently the opposite thought occurs, and I have a good time. I recommend forgetting yourself and asking people around you to tell you about themselves. They’ll soon ask you about you. You can make friends that way. If they don’t ever ask about you, they’re an asshole.
Yea, I’m just not interested any more.
I used to want to understand people better, but it’s always the same old thing - everyone’s got a chip on their shoulder and it’s tiresome dealing with that.
I just wanna hang out and get to know you, but that chip really gets in the way.
Not everyone has a chip, though. What everyone does have is a soul. Try to reach it in some kind of positive way, and people will like you.
Every time I’m in a mall or restaurant and see a flock of yelling and otherwise poorly behaved kids and their useless parents.
No because anything is better than being surrounded by hostile people in your own home 24/7.
I hope it get’s better for you.
Thanks
Nah I love going out
