• Emi@ani.social
    242·
    3 months ago

    Not sure if I’m lucky to never having a girlfriend or if I missed out on a lot. Soon being 30.

    • Johanno@feddit.org
      6·
      3 months ago

      It is told that if you hit 30 being a virgin you will transform into a wizard. If you study computer science that is at least

    • krooklochurm@lemmy.ca
      3·
      3 months ago

      There’s this weird inversion that happens somewhere in your mid 30s where it becomes way easier to get laid as a dude.

    • boobs@lemmy.world
      2·
      3 months ago

      Hard to say. Having only experienced having a girlfriend this year in my mid 30s, the breakup turned all the memories to pain. I think I’d have overall been happier without them at all. Especially since the relationship had come at a time when I finally felt securely past my traumas and had learned to love myself as I was. Now I have to try to do that all over again with freshly resurfaced and reinforced trauma.

      • AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world
        3·
        3 months ago

        It never gets easier imo. The more you love the other person the harder it hits. Just know that all relationships end on a long enough time scale. The amount of pain you feel can be evidence of the amount love you felt in the relationship. I hope you keep loving despite the inevitable pain that comes with it.

        • boobs@lemmy.world
          2·
          3 months ago

          A relationship ending because we grew old together or something is fine to me, at least theoretically. It’s the rejection that hurts. The knowledge that everything up to that point meant nothing to her in the end

    • MonkeMischief@lemmy.today
      1·
      3 months ago

      Freaking PREACH.

      It makes me so sad how people are trying to ProGamer420$69 min-max munchkin-build their way through socializing or finding someone who will go out with them, or they treat dating like the stock market…or any kind of “market.”

      “I need to get a girlfriend/boyfriend” is a phrase that immediately signals the wrong mentality, and apps and services are all too willing to jump in and perpetuate this cycle of ignorance and desperate loneliness.

  • MyMindIsLikeAnOcean@piefed.worldEnglish
    5·
    3 months ago

    Unfortunately it’s kinda true. People, in general, are far too willing to file themselves into boxes.

    Back in the day when I still cared about meeting women I was always surprised at how my fashion aesthetic would attract the same type over and over again.