When you’re talking to someone who’s expressing a great deal of anxiety (“emergency shutdown”), phrases like “it’s not that hard” and “it’s obvious” become “if you struggle with this, you’re an idiot”.
You might not be an idiot but you are lacking in experience doing basic things like handling cash and talking to people and being in the world, which is fine because everyone at some point is inexperienced.
The first time I had a cashier say this to me, I was also baffled and froze up… the customs of the rapidly-moving world outside were new to me. Now it’s easy and I understand the other person’s job. Everyone gets there, it just takes exposure, not running and hiding from it.
I’m glad you had progress! Notice I’m not the one who originally wrote about actually having a “shutdown”.
My comment is about how someone’s choice of words can sabotage their point, depending on the listener’s situation. It is not encouragement to avoid challenging things.
This is why I prefer using a card. I can’t handle impromptu math. It makes my brain perform an emergency shutdown.
It’s not that hard: sum everything you’ll give (20+1=21), then it’s obvious you’ll receive 10 back.
When you’re talking to someone who’s expressing a great deal of anxiety (“emergency shutdown”), phrases like “it’s not that hard” and “it’s obvious” become “if you struggle with this, you’re an idiot”.
You might not be an idiot but you are lacking in experience doing basic things like handling cash and talking to people and being in the world, which is fine because everyone at some point is inexperienced.
The first time I had a cashier say this to me, I was also baffled and froze up… the customs of the rapidly-moving world outside were new to me. Now it’s easy and I understand the other person’s job. Everyone gets there, it just takes exposure, not running and hiding from it.
I’m glad you had progress! Notice I’m not the one who originally wrote about actually having a “shutdown”. My comment is about how someone’s choice of words can sabotage their point, depending on the listener’s situation. It is not encouragement to avoid challenging things.