Fair enough, I did assume the target audience was selfhosters based on the question.

As for provider backups - well, you’d hope. But M$ doesn’t do user available backups, so I’d be surprised if that was bundled by the average SaaS provider.

And if you don’t know what database you’re running, how are you backing it up?

If you don’t know what database you’re running, are you bothering to do a full shutdown before backups? Are you doing backups at all…

I thought that I was the same as you, but actually I realise I ‘tell myself’ things all the time.

Mostly it feels like I’m bullshitting myself with things I ‘know to be true’ to drown out irrational things I feel.

Do you never have irrational monkeybrain chatter? Like, “I don’t feel like I’m ever going to be good at X”; only to reassure yourself that you’ll get better as you practice? If I ever feel disheartened, I often ‘tell myself’ that I’m not special enough to be uniquely incapable of learning whatever it is.

I put ‘tell myself’ in quotes because none of this actually happens in slow full language sentences in my head. It can, but bothering to sound out the whole thought seems silly and inefficient somehow. Mostly it happens in fragmented feelings and flashes of remembered sensations.