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Not that it matters now, but I’m curious. I don’t know if I was popular. I had a lot of friends in middle school and I would say I did in high school too, but a lot less people knew me as the middle school I went to was smaller.
Popular people didn’t see themselves as popular, they just had a lot of friends from their perspective. Social structures are only really visible from the bottom-up.
I guess? I’m a chatty ADHD enjoyer, I was friends or at least had good relationships with most of the kids in my class of 135 lads. And I’m still happy to meet up with them when possible, since I left my home country a decade and a half ago and I love seeing how they’ve grown and are today prosocial, responsible, mature men but are still somehow the same people they were so many years ago, and it’s like time barely changed us. 🥲❤️
lol.
lmao
I def was not popular. Introverted, into anime, video games, metal and classical music, was in the band.
Was definitely one of the weird kids, I was nice enough, but I don’t really get people, so ended up having a small group of tight knit friends and that’s was about it. :3
Sounds similar to me in some ways, I think a small group of friends like that is better though. A few of us a still quite close and catch up regularly so I call that a win vs being generally popular.
I guess
I was bullied at every school I went to. Growing up an undiagnosed autistic girl was not easy. I managed to make a few friends when I got to a bigger school because we were all outcasts together, but that wasn’t until I was 16 and almost done school. Even after I stood up to my bully when I was 15 I still got tortured at the small town school before that.
TBH I still don’t know how to make friends today and my only friend is one of the ones I managed to dupe into liking me when I was 16 lol
I relate to the friend problem too much. Last friend I made was ~15 years ago.
I made a friend, she was like a sister to me for 12 years. Our families lived together for almost a decade, I was a surrogate for her, we were family. Earlier this year she went on a racist tirade and when I wasn’t ok with it she stopped talking to me. Now I’m scared to try making friends again.
The friend I kept from high school may be distant now, but at least she’s consistent and out expectations of each other are equal: don’t be an asshole, see you next year.
Yea and no. I was by no means the guy everyone wanted to hang out with. But I did know and hang out with and eclectic collection of people. I got along with everyone. Probably because I thought and still think most people are cool in their own right and you just gotta find that for them.
I wasn’t popular, but I could easily drift from one clique/group to the next and was generally accepted by all. I didn’t get invited to hang out all the time, but enough times that I didn’t feel like I was being excluded entirely.
I wasn’t popular, I don’t think I was unpopular either, I was certainly a bad kid though.
Was kicked out of class a lot and used to pick on people and get into fights.
I also used to get picked on by others so I’ve no real sense where I stood.
I’m still friends with people from school over 15 years later and I’m married to the girl I sat next to in English who i routinely got kicked put of class
I’m kind of in the same boat I think. I definitely wasn’t one of the “popular” kids, I didn’t play sports and was a pretty average student. I had a smallish friend group, 5-10 of us; we had a big bench at the end of a hall by a window we “claimed” and hung out at.
I had a couple specific people that bullied me. It wasn’t until about a decade ago I realized there were a few people who actually did see me as mean and a bully. It put things in perspective and gave me a lot to think about.
I didn’t go to that kind of school. My graduating class was 47 people; about a third of us had been together since kindergarten. We all got along, how could we not?
Most certainly not.
I’d say I was? I got along with most everyone and it wasn’t uncommon for me to walk around during lunch break and most people to recognize me
Just as the “new kid”…
In middle/high school, most likely not popular but never really bullied. At least from what I remember. And I think the only time I was really kinda bullied a little in elementary school, my dumb autistic ass didn’t get it and it may have backfired.
No, I think I scared people.
I have no idea actually. there was no active bullying at any of the schools I went like the cliche movie scenes, more like passive silent cast out.
