I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.

I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.

  • Artisian@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 days ago

    I know a family with a similar age gap between step siblings, the cohorts just don’t interact much and it works fine.

    Being over 50 may make early parenting more rough than usual; after the first few years I don’t think it matters very much (being retired around the college/late teen years may actually be a big advantage).

    I remember hearing a big scare about increased cancer risk and such, but these can be screened for and managed. I’m told it is not a real concern.