• dohpaz42@lemmy.world
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      At first, not likely. But if you take the time and spend the effort to genuinely get to know your partner (on that intimate level), then yes you can learn their tells. It also takes a lot of open and honest communication, which means sometimes you or they may hear things that are not flattering. But that should be okay and encouraged, because as with anything else in life, it’s through failure that you learn and grow and get better.

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        Are women ever finished? Men often physically can’t keep going after orgasm and need to recover, but women can get several orgasms. Is there a limit even?

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          I’ve been told yes, but I’ve also been lied to about that sort of thing. So your guess is as good as mine.

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          Are women ever finished?

          Yes, there’s only so much the body can physically take. It depends on the woman how long it takes, but after a certain point there’s just nothing left for them to give, and it my relationships, I always advise shoulder taps cuz words are gone. I’ve gotten all of my partners to that point on multiple occasions, and they basically act like goo piles until they have time to recover, it’s kinda adorable.

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            Fair enough, I’ve achieved that once or twice, but not more. Tbh between some partners getting 0 orgasms over 3 years together and some getting 20 in one session I’m starting to think this depends on the woman herself even more than the man’s abilities.

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          “Refractory period” is the term, and the soft limits of it affect people differently. Short answer yes everyone has a reflex that diminishes the returns on stimulation in various circumstances. That ranges from single orgasm and significant refractory period to avoid discomfort, up to cases of multiple orgasms in the same session regardless of gender. This can also change with mood and other circumstances.

          https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_(sex)

    • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
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      there are usually contractions in a different rhythm you can in theory see from the outside, but for some it’s just in the private parts that aren’t visible from common positions.

      with men, if he shot his load 2 or 3 times earlier, it’s also hard to tell when nothing comes out any more.

      but i think, if the person wears a butt plug and you tape a little flag to the base, it would probably wave 3 or 4 times distinctively. but don’t hurt each other shoving random stuff up your butt!